Monday, October 23, 2017


I honestly have been taking time to determine what direction I want to go with my site.
I decided I will try my hand at weekly posts about silence,PTSD, sexual assault, family alienation etc. I may even solicit some guest posts.
Let’s see how this goes.

Saturday, June 10, 2017

Self love

The best gift you can give your self is love.  Not the love of a man or a woman but the love of yourself. I challenge you to take the time to name 1 thing each day you love about your self until you can fill a book. No rules here, be silly and have fun with it. It is the first step on a long journey to self love.

Saturday, March 18, 2017

My book is available on amazon, and if you click the link below. It will take you directly to it. I have created a print and ebook version. This book has been a journey for me, one of self discovery. Pick up your copy today!!!


Monday, October 3, 2016

Where Do I Stand?????

        I had an interesting conversation with a young woman last week. She asked me where should she stand in the fight for injustice. Find myself fielding questions like this all the time, young people just want to know what is  the right thing to do.  Some of them have no clue what they should or should not do.  As mentors, educators and leaders we may think we know what they should do.

       The reality is and what I told her was,  that I can't tell you where to stand. I can provide you with  knowledge and lead you to sources that can educate you, but I can't tell you what to do. You have to sit and think, look inside your self and find your direction.  What is right for me, may not be what is right for you.

      Before you decide to tell someone how to join this battle remember  we are not all the same  and what might wok for you, wont work for someone else. Our goal above all it to make sure our children learn how to think critically. The key word is THINK!!!!


Sunday, June 5, 2016

Removing Silence Brings Happiness

It has been such a long time since I decided to post because I have been dedication my time to the Silence No More Project and  my Dissertation.  I want to  come to you today and express joy because I feel like I am on top of a mountain, I went to church today and felt joy instead of pain.  That for me was such a big deal because I used to go to church and purge pain. Today I rejoiced and that was the best feeling I  have ever had in my life.  I may have lost some things or people but the gains are beautiful. I felt my feelings and removed the silence from my life. Now I am experiencing  a freedom that I never have felt before.

I say to you all go forth, push through the process and there is joy the end of the process.

Loving myself as I am!

Friday, April 22, 2016

Authentically Me!!!

Fourteen years ago I decided to go natural. I was tired of the relaxers and perms breaking my hair. I also wore braids most of the time anyway.  My boyfriend at the time laughed at me after I cut my hair and said I look like a boy. 

Needless to say neither he nor the hairstyle lasted. Six months later with him gone I went natural yet again. My hair for me has always been a part of my identity. Ask any black woman and many of your childhood memeories has something to with getting your hair done. 

I have always loved the look of Locs on other women but my excuse was that I change my hair too much to get them myself. The reality is I was scared and not brave enough to do it. Just like going natural I tried it a few times and went back to naturally loosed. 

I knew when I was ready to be authentically me my hair would reflect that. 10 months ago, healing really occurred in my life. I decided I wanted the world to see me. The real me not the person that had represented me for so long. So I started my Locs.  Honestly from the first day I was in love with myself.  I saw me everyday, in the mirror and it did not matter to me what anyone else thought about it.  To some this may seem silly. They found that freedom a long time a go but when you have lived the live I have,it take a little bit longer to get where you need to be. 

So this post is celebrating the fact that the real Keisha finally stood up!!!